Lorene Isabelle Nickle (1922-2001)

Funeral Transcript

Courtesy of Wilma Nadyne Nickle

MARCH 20, 2001


Bishop Steven Rone: “I have been called by the family to come before Thee this day to thank Thee for the many blessings that have been given to us. We are thankful for the gospel and all that it has to offer. We are thankful for families and what they can contribute one to another--the love, the understanding, and in times such as this --the sympathy.
We pray for Thy Spirit to be with us this day, especially during the funeral services of Sister Lorene Tidlund. We pray for Thy loving Spirit to attend all that are here, whether it be family or friends, that they may be comforted. That they will seek out and have a full knowledge and understanding of the Plan of Salvation and how the gospel works and can affect and touch every life.
We are thankful to Thee and all that Thou has to offer us and this is our prayer unto Thee at this time, in the name of Jesus Christ. Amen

“Our Father which art in Heaven, we come before Thee at this time, so very grateful to be together as a family. We are further grateful that the family members who have traveled so far have done so in safety.
Father, we ask that Thy Spirit be with Gladys this day, as she cannot be with us.
We also thank Thee for the many members of our family far and wide – those who are serving missions and those that are with their family at this time –that were not able to come and be here. We know they are thinking of us and we are thinking of them.
Father, we are so very thankful that we have been able to be members of this wonderful family. We are grateful for the wonderful example given to us by our sister, our mother, our grandmother. We pray that Thy Spirit will be with us this day, that we will comforted by it.
We are grateful for the atonement of Thy Son. We are grateful for the knowledge of the gospel and the faith that it gives us at this time.
We pray all of these things humbly, in the name of Jesus Christ. Amen
This is the funeral of Lorene Isabelle Nickle Tidlund, born June 29, 1922, passed away February 14, 2001, 8:45 p.m., Springfield, Missouri. The funeral services were held in Springfield First Ward, Springfield, Missouri.
Prelude Music: O My Father.
Bishop Steven Rone: We would like to welcome all of you here for the funeral services of Sister Lorene Nickle Tidlund. Our services will be as follows:

The family has asked me to offer the invocation. We would like to recognize on the organ Sister Shirley Draheim. Our duet (Sister Nancy Jensen and Sr. Lannete Calhoun) will be singing two numbers. After the invocation our opening hymn will be “How Great Thou Art”by the Duet, following which Brother Russ Tidlund, a son, will give the eulogy. Our speaker Brother Richard E. Turley, Sr., a brother-in-law. Our closing hymn will by the duet will then sing “Abide With Me,” after which the benediction will be offered by Sister Rebecca Tidlund, a daughter-in-law.
Prayer: Bishop Steven Rone: Our Heavenly Father. We come before Thee at the funeral services for Sister Tidlund and with gratitude in our hearts we are thankful for the gospel that has brought us together this day. We are thankful for the love and understanding Thou has given us, and all that we have, if we will just take advantage of it. We are thankful for the promises that we have for being able to continue our lives, even after death.
We are thankful for the atonement of Jesus Christ, which makes all things possible.
We are indeed grateful for those who are in attendance this day and we pray for thy protecting Spirit to be with us – that all may return to their homes in safety.
We especially ask for Thy blessings to be upon those members of the family who could not be here this day, due to illness or other complications. Bless them that if it be Thy will they will be raised from their beds of affliction, that they will be able to continue their life properly.
We are thankful for Thy Spirit that attends us in all we say and do and pray
that same spirit to attend us not only in these services, but throughout this day, which we now dedicate unto Thee, in the name of Jesus Christ. Amen
Duet: “How Great Thou Art” - Lynette Calhoun and Nancy Jensen.

Eulogy: Russell Dean Tidlund:
What greater tribute than to sing a song about a woman “How Great Thou Art.” To family, friends she truly is. A loving husband of 57, a loving wife of 57 years. Her husband loves her greatly. Brothers and sister, it is with a great, great sadness that we are here today, but it is with great joy as well. My youngest daughter wrote a poem and my mother loved poetry. This poem, written by Kelly Tidlund, is called prayer.
(By Kelly Tidlund)

A circle is round,
And has no end;
Time goes on,
And hearts will mend;
A message to you,
A promise to send;
A shoulder, a hand,
A soul to lend.

As the past goes on,
And the future near;
Each heart, each friend,
Each love so dear;
Time will tell, but,
Have no fear;
I am here, I am here.

Love of one,
Or love of all;
When we leap,
Or when we fall;
It is greater,
Grander of them all;
We see the light
It makes us grow tall.

In our Father’s arms abound,
Forever with love;
Forever aloud,
Forever until we’re there again;
With love, with family, and with friends,
Until we’re ready to see you again.

My mother, Lorene Isabelle Nickle Tidlund, June 29, 1922, passed away of February 14, 2001.

She was a beautiful woman of tremendous courage, great spirit and beauty inwardly as well as outwardly that is second to none. She was a beloved wife, mother, grandmother, great grandmother, sister, aunt, and friend. Lorene returned to her Heavenly Father on February 14, 2001, at 8:45 p.m. What a wonderful Valentine gift to give your Heavenly Father - to have a saintly woman return home. She has joined now with her beloved parents, Daniel and Lena Dahlman Nickle, her beautiful sisters, Evelyn Nickle McGee and Jane Nickle Belnap, and a beautiful granddaughter, Sarah Tidlund.
My mother was born in Springfield, Missouri, June 29, 1922, to Daniel Earl Nickle and Lena Marie Dahlman. She graduated from Central High School (formerly known as Senior High School). One of the greatest days of my mother’s life was on August 21, 1943, she was married to my father, Al Tidlund, from Joseph, Utah, in Springfield, Massachusetts. Than, just a few short months later, on November 12, 1943, their marriage was solemnized in the Salt Lake Temple of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints, for time and all eternity.
As a faithful and temple worthy member of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints, Lorene held many positions of responsibility, including President of her Branch Relief Society, and she was the first Relief Society President of the St. Louis Missouri Stake. She will be remembered by all family and friends for her service to others, her missionary abilities, her loyalty to family and God, her artistic abilities, her wonderful sense of humor and her great work on her family genealogy.
Let quote from one of the Presidents of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints, President Spencer W. Kimball. “Mothers have a sacred role ...They are partners with God...He has placed women at the very headwaters of the human stream.” As a mother, and I am a little biased, but my Mom was second to none. She set the example by not only her words, but her actions. She was a role model to those who with whom she came in contact and she touched the lives of everyone she met.
She came from a family of nine – seven girls and two boys – and she was and is admired by all. But as a mother, as I observed as I grew up, she taught my brother and me and she had such a wonderful sense of humor. She and my dad were such great hosts in St. Louis and we came to Springfield a lot to see my aunts and my cousins and grandpa and grandma. I can remember when we would leave St. Louis to come here to Springfield, there were signs that said “WATCH FOR FALLING ROCK.” As most of us know, that means watch for rocks falling around you. But as a little boy six years of age she told me it was about an Indian named Falling Rock. For years every time I saw that sign I was always looking for an Indian. As a little boy she told me that she loved me, she loved her husband, my dad, my brother and her son, and brothers and sisters there are members here and non-members here alike, but as members of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints, one of the most distinctive doctrines regarding motherhood emphasizes the role of mother after death. The eternal nature of the family unit, that unit is bound together by priesthood ordinances and temple covenants, guarantees to a faithful LDS mother the privileges, opportunities and joys of motherhood with her children in a relationship that lasts eternally.
Although my mom is not here now, she is in spirit, and she is with my grand parents on both sides, my two aunts, and I know she sends her love.
Then, in Old Testament times, a woman’s strength and authority were found in her mothering of faithful children, especially sons. And my mother did a wonderful job with her two sons. Besides Eve and other outstanding examples of mothers who influenced Old Testament History, include Sarah, Rebekah, Hannah, and Naomi. Sarah, of course, figures indispensably in the blessing given to Abraham and the Lord promised her very explicitly that she would be a mother of nations. Which, as we know, came to pass.
Currently the term is often found in patriarchal blessings, when a woman is promised, in substance, that she will stand as “a mother in Israel.” President Joseph Fielding Smith said, “To be a mother in Israel, in the full gospel sense, is the highest reward that can come into the life of a woman.”
As my mother we had as wonderful a life as a mother and son could have. She was so in tune with the Spirit of our Father in Heaven that she always knew the right things to say. It is hard to understand that she is not with us anymore, but I know that she is in spirit and she will always be with me.
As a wife to my father (she was married to him for 57 years), I watched (growing up) she supported and helped my father in all aspects of their lives. In St. Louis she and my dad were great, great hosts at many social events in our home (I have yet to see another host who could do a party as well as my mother)...and since I was old enough(14-15) they would use me as slave labor to park cars and be a waiter, but that was ok. My best friend from St. Louis is down here today. But seriously, they were just a wonderful couple who have been sealed for time and all eternity. Mother loves Daddy.
President Spencer W. Kimball said, “One of the most provocative and profound statements in holy write is that of Paul wherein he directs husbands and wives in their duty to each other and to the family.” First he commends the women: “Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands as unto the Lord. For behold the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church. And he is the Savior of the Body. Therefore, as the church is subject unto Christ, so let your wives be to their own husbands in everything.” If we analyze this very carefully, we can see that the Lord is not requiring women to be subject to their husbands if their husbands are bad and wicked and demanding. Brigham Young once said, “I didn’t tell a woman to follow her husband to the devil.” As the Lord loves his church and serves it, so men should love their wives and serve them and their families. This is what my mom did, unquestionably. Mom and Dad had such a great relationship and I know that my mother will be and is as this very moment in my father’s heart and will be there forever. I know as well when she passed away that our Father in Heaven said to her, “Well done, sister, my faithful servant, come unto me now and I will give you rest.” But I am sure, as I am standing here, that my mother is now totally involved in missionary work. My dad loves my mom. He would open doors to the car, the house, the restaurant, the church, wherever they may be, he treated my mother as the angel she is, with great respect and admiration, and they learned and loved together.
For 44 years of my life I have never heard anyone say a bad thing about my mother.
If my mother had a chance to write a letter to us, as a family, I am sure these are some of the things she would have said:
Dear Family (and especially my eternal companion of 57 years):
Know that I am now free of pain and suffering. We have had a wonderful life as a family. Remember my smile, for I am smiling now, as I look down upon my family. Remember my laugh. My parting is such sweet sorrow at this time, but remember it is only for a moment in the Lord’s eyes and we will be together for eternity and we will walk before God together as a family.
Grieve for a little while, knowing that the time will come when we all will be joined forever. We have had a wonderful life and it is yet to be fulfilled, but it will be.
I love you all and that is something that will be eternal.
All my love. Mom and Lo. (Lo is a nickname her sisters called her a and my dad called her.)
That is what I believe she would say and I know that there are many more things as well. I have a couple of poems I would like to read at this time.
Don’t grieve for me, now I’m free.
I’m following the path God laid for me.
I took His hand when I heard Him call.
I turned my back and left it all.

I could not stay, another day.
To laugh, to live, to work or play.
Tasks left undone must stay that way,
I’ve found my peace at the close of the day.

If parting has left a void,
Then fill it with remembered joy.
A friendship shared, a laugh, a kiss,
Ah yes ... these things I too will miss.

Be not burdened with times of sorrow,
I wish you the sunshine of tomorrow.
My Life’s been full, I’ve savored much,
Good friends, good times, a loved one’s touch.

Perhaps my time seemed all too brief,
Don’t lengthen it now with undue grief.
Lift up your heart and share with me.
God wanted me now, he set me free.

Brothers and Sisters, and we are all that. There are members of the Church here, and there are non-members alike. But in the eternal scheme of things we are all Brothers and Sisters and I want you to know that if my mom were here today she would tell us all and share with us all the love she has she has shared with her family and friends and especially her eternal companion, my father, the love of the gospel.
Momma loved the Book of Mormon. It was an inspiration to her. I know for a fact that she gave away two copies of the Book of Mormon and for those of you who do not know anything about the Book of Mormon, my mom would encourage you to find out and read for yourself and ask three questions: Who am I. Where did I come from? And, Where am I going? Brothers and Sisters, all Three of these things can be answered if we search and ask – we shall find..
I love my mom and she is second to no body. I know that my dad and I, and our family, sisters, aunts and uncles, will be with us eternally.
In conclusion (Dad, this is for you from Mom).
(By David Cory)

Miss you, miss you, miss you.
Everything I do,
Echoes with the laughter
And the voice of You.

You’re on every corner,
Every turn and twist,
Every old familiar spot,
Whispers how you’re missed.

Miss you, miss you, miss you!
Everywhere I go
There are poignant memories
Dancing in a row.

Silhouette and shadow,
Of your form and face,
Substance and reality
Everywhere displace.

Oh I miss you, miss you!
God, I miss you Girl!!
There’s a strange, sad silence
‘Mid the busy whirl.

Just as tho’ the ordinary
Daily things I do,
Wait with me, expectant
For a word from you.

Miss you, miss you, miss you!
Nothing now seems true
Only that ‘twas heaven,
Just to be with you.

I say these things in the name of Jesus Christ. Amen.